Have you ever felt like you are smack in between a giant rock and a hard place? Is your life at a crossroads and you feel like you don’t know which way to turn? Are there too many unhealthy voices speaking into you life that God feels distant or uncaring? Do you wish that someone would just tell you what to do rather than wandering around in murky waters groping for an answer that you hope will turn out right? Sometimes emotions and feelings can carry away the unsuspecting into troubled waters. How can you avoid making poor choices? How do you make wise decisions when there are so many clamoring voices jockeying for first place? It begins by seeking God’s wisdom and His perspective. Here are a few questions to discuss with the All-Knowing, Ever-present, All-powerful, Creator of the Universe, who has a plan for your life.
If you need to, grab your journal and get serious with real questions and the reality of beautifully hard answers. My prayer is by the time you are finished with this list that the Holy Spirit has given you a new perspective on your decision. I would encourage you to take your answers before the Lord and seek confirmation, as well as seek godly counsel if the impact of your decision has far reaching effects. The future version of you is really important! Are you ready?
Am I being manipulated by others, pressured, persuaded, or subtly (or not so subtly!) controlled by someone with ulterior motives into making this decision because it benefits them? (physically, sexually, emotionally, financially)
Could God be using this decision as merely a stepping stone to something even bigger or better for me?
Do those in authority over me approve or encourage this? (pastor, leader, husband, adult children, siblings, or parents)
Have I avoided or ignored any "red flags" in the decision making process?
Does this allow God to move more freely in my life?
Does this show others that Christ is living in me and that I am living for Him?
Am I obeying the Lord’s clear promptings or am I reluctant to obey because He might not give me my desired outcome?
Does this gratify my flesh or glorify God?
Does this cause others to doubt my moral integrity, spiritual commitments, physical life goals, or sexual purity?
Does this bring dishonor to my reputation as a person, employee, member of a faith community?
Is this what I really want for my life?
Have I gotten clear confirmations through the Holy Spirit about moving forward or am I basing this decision on my feelings, emotions or current situations?
Where will this decision take me in 5-10 years, and does this trajectory honor God?
Is this leading me into a more biblical lifestyle or is it ensnaring me into compromise?
Do I have an unsettled sense that God has bigger or better plans for my life?
Have I surrendered the outcome to God at a heart level?
Am I giving lip service to those around me so they get off my back and I can do what I want?
Am I hiding details about this decision from the ones I love so I can have their approval?
Is this decision irreversible or permanent? If so, what will be the potential joyful rewards, or heartache of natural consequences?
If this decision is permanent, have I considered the impact (physically, emotionally, sexually or financially) that this will have on my spouse, family, children? (or on a future spouse and children)
Am I willing to let this go if I sense that this decision is not God’s best?
Have I manipulated people and/or situations to get my desired result?
Does this increase my reliance and trust in God, or am I relying on my own strength, wisdom or skills?
Am I only seeing what I want to see, and not taking a balanced approach to this decision? (Am I ignoring negatives and choosing to only look at the positives?)
Have I taken the time to talk with (or observe) others who have made a similar decision? What are the positive or negative results?
Am I being teachable or willing to learn from those who have made poor choices?
Am I willing to accept any negative effects this decision will have in order to fulfill God’s calling in my life?
Do I see this decision making me a stronger, healthier, happier person who is more stable and equipped to embrace life challenges with a positive attitude?
What are the pro’s and con’s? (physically, spiritually, financially, emotionally, sexually, relationally)
Do others see this decision bringing about positive things in my life?
Is this decision bringing about a brighter future for me and will it empower me to serve Christ in a deeper way?
Is this decision going to make me a better person, friend, spouse, parent, or employee?
Will this decision negatively or positively affect the next generation?
Am I willing to still obey God if He answers no to my desired outcome?
Am I in a place of peace and trust that by faith, His will for me is good and right?
Am I being hypocritical in this decision making process?
Is this an idol in my life?
and last but not least…
IS THIS A WISE DECISION
AND THE BEST CHOICE I CAN POSSIBLY MAKE?
It has been said you can either learn from others victories and defeats, or the school of hard knocks. Either way it’s your choice to enjoy the benefits or reap the consequences. My sister, no matter what decision is in front of you, let Wisdom Himself speak into your live and give you His perspective. Listen to the Holy Spirit as He guides you prayerfully through His Word.