We have all been at a critical crossroads in life at one time or another. It’s that place where you feel confused about your future, unsure of God’s will, or wondering if you are even on the right road in the first place. Sorting out facts from feelings can be a bit overwhelming and leave you believing a lie that God is nowhere in sight. Are you there right now? Have you ever wondered how to make a wise decision that honors God and keeps you headed in the right direction? When you are standing at a crossroads, it is wise to not only turn to the Word of God, but also ask yourself tough questions to help guide you to God’s very best.
ASK YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS…
Ok, Sister, these questions are not easy! If you need to, grab your journal and prayerfully take time answering each one individually. Don’t simply rush through these questions, take your time! You may turn some of these questions into a prayer asking God to reveal more of Himself in your situation. The Holy Spirit might prompt you to seek godly counsel, spend time in repentance or simply worship Him in silence or song as you reflect. Who knows, maybe your answer will be clear before you reach the end of this list!
Ready? Let’s get real…because the future version of you is worth it.
Am I really seeking God’s best or am I relying on my own thoughts/actions/emotions?
Am I spending time in fervent prayer, fasting, focused devotions, or involved in an in-depth Bible study/biblically based book that will help guide me through this process?
Am I seeking Biblical, godly counsel from a trusted Christian mentor(s) or pastor(s) that will not only enable me to broaden my thinking, but keep my best interest in mind? If so, am I sharing truths that will give my mentor or pastor accurate information that will help them guide me, or am I holding back details from them to get my desired outcome?
Am I surrounding myself with unhealthy relationships, ungodly friends, or negative influences that are leading me away from clear thinking as I make my decisions?
Have I made excuses or participated in rationalizing/justifying unhealthy behavior?
Does this advance unbiblical behavior, thoughts, and actions or does this help me to be a light to those around me?
Do I have people who are willing to speak truth into my life, even it it hurts?
Am I sacrificing or bending my non-negotiable core beliefs or values to get my desired outcome? (relationally, spiritually, mentally, financially, physically, sexually, or ethically)
Do my actions, intentions, or thoughts line up with the moral and ethical principles found in Scripture? (Spoiler alert- God will never tempt you into sin or ask you to violate His Word.)
Does this use my God given gifts and abilities in a way that brings honor to God and dignity to me?
Does this take time or emotional energy away from my current obligations, so that my top priorities are neglected? (family time, financial issues, spouse, career goals, etc.)
Does this damage my testimony?
Will this be a life-giving, positive influence on my spouse, children, extended family, or peers? (or future spouse and children). (physically, mentally, spiritually, sexually, financially)
Do I have an unrealistic view of reality or natural consequences? (ex: The false notion that if I do something that is in direct opposition to God, that He is obligated to save me from the negative natural consequences of my poor choices? (The attitude that God would never let that happen to me.)
Does this idea/job/opportunity/relationship/direction draw me closer to God, or does it bring emotional/spiritual distance with my loved ones?
Is this causing unhealthy divisions with my trusted friends, close family or spiritual family?
Do I rationalize or justify my actions or words to get my end result?
Is this consuming my emotional, spiritual, mental, and financial energy only to produce negative results in my life?
Am I willing to sin to get my way, or have I sinned in order to get this far in the decision-making process?
When friends, family member, or my spouse discuss the decision with me, do I become defensive, angry, close-minded or unwilling to see their viewpoints?
Do others see negative changes to my personality, mental health, relationships or my stress levels as a result of this decision or this decision making process?
Am I open to listen to a godly viewpoint that doesn’t agree with my desired outcome?
Have I surrendered the outcome to God at a heart level?
Am I following my head (facts) or my heart (emotions)?
Am I placing a high value on the honest guidance of those who love me the most or am I slugging this out on my own?
What positive/negative results can I expect to happen as a result of this decision?
Is this God’s best?
and last but not least…
IS THIS A WISE DECISION
AND THE BEST CHOICE I CAN POSSIBLY MAKE?
Life is hard and the struggle is real. Standing at a crossroads is never an easy time of life, but it can be a joyful one when we seek God’s best, trust in His grace and step back to see a bigger picture. His mercy is endless and His guidance is sure. Do you believe the lie that He is going to somehow not make His will known? Oh, sweet sister, lift your eyes to the One who is in control of every detail and every path your feet will take. He knows the way and although your knees are knocking and your chin is quivering, He got you, and He’s got even this decision.